Mom to Elijah Xavier Elmore

October 7th, 2010 – December 14th, 2010

Fayetteville, Georgia

My name is Stacy, I lost my son Eli to SIDS December 14, 2010 and I had a miscarriage 7 years ago when I was 4 weeks along.  After my miscarriage, I was so distraught and I immediately kept trying to get pregnant again, it became my number 1 goal in life. 

Well in 2007 I was diagnosed with PCOS and had polyps removed from my uterus, but even after the surgery I kept having problems.  In 2009 I finally went and got a 2nd opinion, she confirmed the PCOS and put me on medication and said the only way to get pregnant was to lose weight but there was still only a low chance I would ever have a child.

Well I got on a diet program and hired a personal trainer and lost 98 lbs in 9 months, 3 months later I found out I was pregnant, Elijah Xavier Elmore was born Oct 7, 2010, I was so overjoyed, I finally had my precious baby. Then on Dec 14, he went to sleep in my arms and never woke up, I was devastated.

I am held so much blame for him passing away, I worked so hard to have him, then I didnt do a good enough job of protecting him. Both losses hurt me, but losing Eli is the worst because he was a full term and I had 9 weeks with him.

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  1. Lisa Ferlita says:

    Oh honey. I am so sorry. I am crying for you. I too lost a baby. My son was six months old. He had a muscle disease that no doctor could diagnose. I took him all over the country. The doctors never led me to believe that this was life threatening. He died in day care for no apparent reason. The autopsy said he died of natural causes due to his hypotonia. (low muscle tone) I hope you find peace.


  2. stacy, i too lost my son to sids. its easy to blame yourself because we have no reason no answer for why our little angels left us.. but you have to know that it is not your fault. you were the BEST mommy and eli knows that. when he looked at you in those 9weeks all he knew was love. sids takes perfectly healthy babies from perfectly wonderful mommies. one day i hope that they are able to give us a reason why.. but until that day comes please try not to blame yourself. its not your fault. you are an amazing mommy who loves her lil guy and he knows how much you loved him and that you wouldve given ANYTHING to keep him here with you. if you ever want to talk.. im here with an ear. much love…

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