First Baby Lost to Ectopic Pregnancy

March 15th, 2011

Chambersburg, PA

I was at least 4 weeks into my pregnancy. I was just starting to notice the early symptoms of pregnancy. Then I started having neck and shoulder pain and abdominal/pelvic pain. This pain would not go away with medicines like tylenol and advil. On early morning of March 15, 2011, I had gotten really nauseated and felt as if I was going to faint. I was in my bathroom the first time I fainted. Then the second time I fainted, I was in my kitchen because I felt nauseated again. I woke up lying on my kitchen floor and what had woken me up is that I vomited. I called my aunt to take me to the ER.

When I arrived at the ER, they took me back right away. I was given so many tests, I don’t even remember all of them. They had taken blood, an EKG, and an internal ultrasound. The ER doctor then told me that I was indeed pregnant and that it was an ectopic pregnancy.  An ectopic pregnancy is when the fetus starts developing outside the uterus. My ectopic pregnancy can also be called a tubal pregnancy. My baby was growing in my right fallopian tube. But, the baby had gotten to big and had burst my tube. I had internal bleeding. I would need surgery to terminate my pregnancy, fix my tube and I needed blood since I was bleeding.

The ER doctor couldn’t perform the surgery, so there was an on call OB/GYN.  She was a wonderful doctor.  She explained the procedure and was very upfront and honest. It was exactally 18 minutes from the time she arrived in the ER until I was in the OR getting prepped for surgery. My surgery went well. I had 10 staples.
I have learned something from this experience, God said it wasn’t my time to be pregnant yet. Everything happens for a reason, even the worst of things. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think of my baby, wondering what sex it was and trying to get used to the fact that I won’t be bringing a bundle of joy into this world. The best thing anyone can do, is to keep their head high. Remember that God gives us tests because he knows that we are strong enough to pass them.


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  1. I’m so sorry that you have had to go through this, but I think your very last statement is so SO true. What an amazing attitude to keep. Many prayers.

  2. I’m right there with you. My loss to ectopic was on October 2, 2012. I have really, really good days, for weeks at a time, and then BAM.

    Here’s my story:

    Thanks for sharing yours!

  3. I am actually going thru the same thing as we speak. This was my first pregnancy. Just had surgery a week ago.. No missed period,only light spotting a few days after my period. So took hpt and BFP! Then to learn the next day at dr that there was no baby. Hcg levels kept rising but not doubling. Dr knew something was wron so went in for surgery a few days later and cyst was blocking tubal pregnancy on ultrasound so that’s why dr couldn’t see baby. But you are so right at the end of your paragraph about GOD. He knows when the right time is and will not give us more than we can handle! God bless and thank you for sharing your story!!!

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