Mommy to Benjamin David

Stillborn June 11th, 2007

Houston, Texas

On June 11, 2007 I had a regular doctors appointment. My mom, husband Jason, and brother Tyler went with me. I was 27 weeks pregnant and they doctor was trying to check the baby’s heart beat with the doppler. Well, no luck there, so he tried his ultrasound machine. Then sent me across the street to the hospital.

The ultrasound tech did the ultrasound, but said that I would have to wait for my doctor to get the results. So they sent me up to the maternity ward and gave me a room. I knew something was wrong, even though my family tried to stay positive. They doctor came in and said there was no heartbeat, that Benjamin had passed away. He wanted to induce my labor and have me deliver Benjamin vaginally. Which really upset me, because losing him was traumatic enough, I said no you can deliver him C-Section, so after much questioning about if I was sure, I finally said look I want a C-Section quit questioning me. I also had him order an autopsy. So my mom went into the operating room with me.

They had given me a spinal block and knocked me out.  Benjamin was delivered at 9:58 pm, he weighed 1lb 1.4oz and was 21 inches long. My mom cut his cord, and was the first person to hold him.  My dad, brothers Ryan & Tyler, and husband Jason all held him that night. I refused to, and I carry that guilt daily.  I did ask my wonderful nurse to see him the next night. I held him and cried and cried. Jason took pictures of Benjamin, and of Benjamin & I. I was so medicated and numb that I didn’t think to get pictures of Jason & Benjamin.

Before I left the hospital they gave me a keepsake box with his footprints, his hat he was wearing, and other keepsakes. They also gave me a Gund bear named Higgins. Klein funeral home graciously offered to pay for his burial and headstone. We buried him on June 19, 2007. We had him wrapped in the Winnie-the-Pooh material that my mom was going to make him a quilt in. We all wrote messages to him on it. I didn’t want to see him before we buried him because he had been cut open.

The autopsy showed that Benjamin had a thyroid problem and he suffocated. We later found out that he suffocated because I have a blood clotting disorder which causes my blood to clot too much. A blood clot blocked the umbilical cord, which caused him to suffocate, and the thyroid problem comes from my mom’s side. It’s been almost 4 years and I still miss him like crazy. It’s gotten easier to deal with, but it still hurts.

Kassandra blogs at http://coffeeandtheirkisses.blogspot.com/

You can contact her at kass102885@gmail.com

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  1. Kassandra, you are so strong. I feel your pain. Your precious lil’ angel will always be missed. Much love.

  2. Kassandra,

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious Benjamin- I love his name….just beautiful! If you are ever interested in meeting up with other moms who understand we have a Southwest Houston Face2Face group that meets 1-2 times a month. I’m sending you an e-mail as well.

    Sending lots of peace and love your way…….

  3. I am so sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers.

  4. Janet Moake says:

    I am so sorry to hear about your angel, I share the same pain with you, in the same day your baby angel was born I was given the news in Humble,TX that my little Andrew, passed away early that morning of June 11th. 2007. I gave birth to him until June 13th. I was 26 weeks pregnant, the cause of his death was unknown. I will keep you and baby Benjamin. God bless you now and forever.

    Janet M.

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