Mom to Triplets
David, born still on April 12, 2008
Lucas, April 12, 2008 to May 9, 2008
Chilhowie, Virginia

We found out in 2008 that we were expecting triplets. We were shocked and surprised, but soon began to anticipate the arrival of our identical boy’s. At first the pregnancy seemed to be going well. I was hospitalized a few times for extreme nausea, but otherwise things looked good.
Since my pregnancy was considered high risk I was sent to a specialist. During my 21 week visit it was noticed that one baby had an excessive amount of amniotic fluid, his brothers still looked okay so I was sent home on bed rest and an appointment was made for the following week.
During my next appointment the doctor discovered that the babies were showing signs of Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome a disease of the placenta that affects identical twin (or higher order multiple) pregnancies, the shared placenta contains abnormal blood vessels, which connect the umbilical cords and circulations of the twins. The common placenta may also be shared unequally by the twins, and one twin may have a share too small to provide the necessary nutrients to grow normally or even survive.
My doctor immediately contacted a specialist in Florida who does laser surgery to try and correct the problem. Within days we were driving the 12 hour trip to Florida, I was supposed to lie down the whole way due to a shortening cervix and the fear of premature labor. I spent that whole trip thinking I was going to give birth on some interstate between Virginia and Florida. After two days on the road we made it to Florida, I spent the entire day after our arrival being tested, and having multiple ultrasounds. Finally the doctor came to me and gave me several options; the one we eventually chose was laser surgery.
I barely slept the night before the surgery, we went in early the next morning and I was prepped for the procedure. I was kept awake during the whole thing because it was better for the babies. I remember being in a lot of pain but still getting excited when I saw the babies on the T.V. screen used to help the doctor guide the laser. Surgery was declared successful and the doctor said my cervix was going back to normal so a scheduled cerclage (stitch in the uterus) was cancelled. I was taken to recovery and then to the room where I was to spend the night. That night turned into a week because a few hours after surgery the membranes around baby A (David) ruptured, causing his cord and foot to prolapse into the birth canal.
I was rushed to labor and delivery where it was decided to try to hold off on delivery of baby David to give the other babies a chance, as I was only 23 weeks at the time. The week I spent in the hospital was a blur, I remember feeling David’s cord pulsing and his little foot wiggling as he tried in vain to be born. He held on for an entire week and passed away shortly before I was taken in for an emergency C-section. Baby B and C were delivered extremely premature at 24 weeks 0 days and were rushed to the NICU.
Lucas who weighed 1lb 5oz at birth fought for survival, he was such a strong and brave little boy. He was born fighting and he didn’t know how to do anything else but fight. He never gave up, but at one month of age it was discovered that NEC (an infection common in preemies) had destroyed his bowels. The NICU doctor told us this was not compatible with life so we held our baby while the doctors took him off of his ventilator. He died as he had lived, fighting. He fell asleep in the arms of his parents. Lucas and his brother David were both little warriors and they will always be in our hearts.
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  1. Laci and Tony says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. I had triplet girls born at 24 weeks gestation in August 2008. Two of my babies subsequently passed away due to the prematurity and I have one little miracle surviving triplet who is 2 years old. I also blog at if you would like to follow. I will follow your blog as I enjoy meeting other babylost mothers, especially other triplet mommies. God Bless your family and I will be praying for you all. I know the difficulties with losing multiple children. So sorry.

  2. Thank you, I am sorry for the loss of your girls, I will follow your blog!

  3. Danelle says:

    Hello Denise,
    My name is Danelle and I too lost two out of three of my triplets in June 2010. I delivered at 23 weeks due to an incompetent cervix. I had two boys and a girl. Gemma is our miracle baby still with us today. Gabriel and Elliot lived for 3 and 4 days. They suffered severe bilateral brain bleeds and we believe that Elliot had NEC. I am so sorry for the loss of your children. It’s a situation that not many people can relate with. Gemma is almost 1 year old and I would be interested in hearing how Elijah is doing with development issues when he got out of the NICU? Is he still behind or has he caught up for his age now?

  4. Katariina says:


    I just want to say how truly sorry I am to hear of your losses. My little girl Evelyn just passed away a little over 3 weeks ago from NEC at 38 days old. I gave birth to her at exactly 24 weeks 0 days as well. It is so heart-breaking and I am at a loss for words to comfort you with, but I just wanted you to know that you’re not alone. Please take care of yourself and your family <3.

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