My name is Jennifer and we lost our first baby, Ellen, at 9 weeks gestation on November 11, 2009. My husband Jason and I live in Lancaster, PA and I have been married for four years. For a long time we were not sure we would have any children. I suffer from major depression and really didn’t want to mess around with my hormones. He’s very career driven and didn’t feel he had time for family. We were happy as is. We travel a lot, eat out a lot, drink and critique fine wine and were just enjoying life.
Then we started talking about children. He and I were both still worried about my mental health. I’d been feeling really great for three years and didn’t want to upset that balance. He also started traveling away from home more than ever. So, we settled on the idea of becoming foster/adopt parents with the intention of adopting an older child. We started the process in November of 2008 and were approved as foster/adopt parents in July of 2009. Amazingly enough despite the huge number of waiting children you hear about, we were told the process would take 1 to 24 months. We have had a few nibbles and one serious potential placement, but everything has ultimately fallen through.
One day Jason and I were talking and I asked him if he was still on board with the adoption plan and he said he was. I asked if he felt that he was missing out on anything by not having biological children and he said that he did feel like he was missing out. He wanted to see what our child would look like. He wanted to create a life with me. I think I fell in love with him all over again when he said that…and we started trying that night. Two weeks later I had a positive pregnancy test!