Putting a face on miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss
Shan-Nel
Mom to Ashley Antoinette
Born and died April 22, 2011
Rosedale, Maryland
It was St. Patrick’s Day, March 17, 2011 when I went to the hospital from getting the WORST pain in my life to find out after the hospital nurses took samples that I was pregnant.
I was so shocked and thrilled at the same time. How was I pregnant for so long and not really know? I’m pregnant?! Yay! Wow! [Read more...]
Heather
Mom to Everett
Born sleeping February 10, 2012
Wakefield, Rhode Island
Before his delivery date, my son had everything he could possibly need. We made sure he was registered for the car seat with the highest safety ratings. We chose organic cotton onesies that were softest to the touch. We even had the warming machine for the wet wipes. Sisters were knitting hats, friends were making quilts, and grandmothers were already decorating the nursery in their mind’s eye. Finally, he had a name. Believe it or not, it came to me in a dream. Maybe he told me himself – his name was to be Everett. [Read more...]
Monica
Mom to Ryan Alan – December 7, 2011
and
Andrew Jonathan – December 8, 2011
Oak Island, North Carolina
After trying to conceive for 4 years my husband and I discovered we were pregnant with triplets in September. We were happy but overwhelmed; at 7 weeks we met with the maternal fetal specialist who explained the risks and options. She sent us to Duke to meet with another specialist who did genetic testing and advised us to reduce to twins. It was a very hard decision but we felt that it would give the other two the best chance. It was a horrible procedure to go through, and in hindsight I don’t know that I would do it again, but at the time I thought I was increasing my babies’ odds…It was so strange to grieve one and yet be excited for two. [Read more...]
Ellen
Mom to Austin
Born November 6, 2011 at 12:55 am
Died November 6, 2011 at 2:35 am
San Diego, California
My husband and I were trying to get pregnant for a long time. When we found out we were pregnant on June 25, 2011, it had been something we wanted for so long and we decided to take 5 pregnancy tests to make sure. After all of those tests, we confirmed we got what we had so longed for and we couldn’t have been happier. [Read more...]
Jana
Mom to Carter Garen
Born and died on June 5, 2011
Lynden, Washington
On February 10, 2011 we found out we were having twins. We had known we were pregnant for a little bit and had been anxiously awaiting our first appointment to see our baby for the first time. Little did we know what a surprise we were in for! Nothing about our pregnancy was routine, normal, or easy. [Read more...]
Kayce
Mom to Ben Harrington Butler: November 6, 2007
&
Brady Winston Butler: November 6, 2007–March 29, 2008
Nashville, Tennessee
I was told from the time I was a teenager with irregular periods that I may need some help getting pregnant in the future. I got married when I was 25 and from the first day of our marriage we never did anything to prevent pregnancy as I knew it might take a while. After a couple of years and several unsuccessful rounds of Clomid, I was sent to a fertility doctor to take more drastic steps. I was diagnosed with PCOS and needed fertility meds to help me ovulate. The first fertility doctor I went to told me that I needed to do invitro fertilization. We did and I did not get pregnant and ended up in the hospital for hyperstimulation. It was a horrible experience and the doctor was just awful to me. I finally went to another fertility doctor when I was 28 and he told me that he thought IUI and fertility injections would work just fine for me. So we tried IUI with the lowest dose of the meds available and I got pregnant on the first try. However, once I finally got pregnant —-I got really pregnant! My first ultrasound revealed that I was pregnant with triplets. We were so happy, excited, and scared all at the same time. I was sent to a high risk pregnancy doctor and our journey began. [Read more...]
Jennie
Mom to Leela Mary, a twin
Born and died January 19, 2011
(Her due date was May 4, 2011)
Middleburg, Florida
It was a very important day; I was 19 weeks pregnant, and on our way to find out if we were having a boy or girl. I knew that there was a little girl in there, but what I didn’t know, or even could imagine, was that there were two of them! Picture my hands on my face, and dad’s head to the wall, and big brother’s jaw on the floor. ”Its twins!” they said. Boy or girl, we didn’t know, “They’re lying on top of each other,” is what the lady said. [Read more...]
Bianca
Mom to Olivia Sky
Born May 7, 2011-Went back with her angels May 7, 2011
Santa Fe, New Mexico
“Come under cover of night and I’ll waiting
I’ll be biding my time, just to see you again
But please, don’t ask me questions
Cause you may not like what the answers might be”
“Let’s not speak of faith
We’ll tell only lies
Here, love is what you might find…”
Steve Reynolds “Cover of Night”
My story
I had a feeling that I wasn’t able to get pregnant, but then again in the past, I never intentionally tried to. I was busy finishing my school, my goals and my fun that I still wanted to have.
I was in Oklahoma City visiting my mother for the Christmas holiday last year and I have this memory of a conversation that we had about babies. “Are you going to ever have kids?” “Are you ok if you don’t?” My mom asked. [Read more...]
Krystal
Mom to Alana Monique Rodriguez & Selena Monique Rodriguez
January 31, 2011 to January 31, 2011
Forever in our hearts
Portland, Oregon
It was early October of 2010 when my boyfriend and I found out I was pregnant. We had so many different emotions that day. We had just moved to a new state and were staying with family until we were able to get on our feet. So finding out we were having a baby was a lot to put on us at that time, but of course the feelings of “what are we going to do” went away and on came the pure excitement. We told everyone in the family and they were all supportive. This being my first pregnancy I was very nervous but anxious at the same time. [Read more...]
Stephine
Mom to Silas Hunter
July 23, 2011 - August 1, 2011
Newark, Ohio
I started having Braxton Hicks at around 19 weeks. Nothing to be worried about, except once after we moved. I was having them for a good 45 minutes about every 4-5 minutes. I called my doctor and we stopped them. About 2 weeks later (maybe sooner, it’s all been a rush), I woke up about 6:15am with Braxton Hicks…the ones I had gone to bed with. But then I started getting pains..”Oh crap, I’m constipated.” These pains, oh my goodness, they kept getting worse. I went downstairs and tried to walk around, drink water, and I laid down. Boyfriend was upstairs in bed still, it was a Saturday. About 11 or so, I woke him up because I couldn’t take it anymore. I called Labor & Delivery and they told me to get some Milk of Magnesia. My boyfriend ran to the store and got it, came back a half hour or so later, but it wasn’t working and the pain was getting worse. [Read more...]
Meneke
Mom to Deron Mekhi Rountree
Born Born June 11th, 2011 at 10:43pm
Died June 12th, 2011 at 12:08am
Chesapeake, Virginia
On February 14, 2011 I had my first OB/GYN visit to determine if I was pregnant. I found out I was 6 wks pregnant. I was told my uterus was bigger then it should be and found out my fibroids had returned. I didn’t know how to feel at that time cause I never thought I could get pregnant again. I had a miscarriage in 2003 due to fibroids and other problems and the Dr told me I wouldn’t be able to have anymore kids. I also wasn’t sure how the father would take it cause when I told him I thought I may be pregnant the first thing he said was we needed to get rid of it. So all of those things consumed my thoughts and I didn’t have time to have joy of being pregnant. My Dr set an appointment for 2/25/11 for a sonogram to see where the fibroids are and if they would effect my pregnancy. I went home and had so much to think about, but in the end I decided to keep my baby and go through with the pregnancy. [Read more...]
Diane
Mom to William and Nathaniel Feb 1 1995
I was 15 when I found out I was pregnant for the first time. I didn’t believe it when my doctor told me, I even told her it was impossible. I had suffered ovarian cysts for some time and I honestly didn’t think I would ever be able to conceive. I was also bleeding while my Dr told me from what I believed to be my period. My Dr ordered another urine sample pregnancy test and it came back positive again. My boyfriend was 21, we were scared. My Dr gave me the advice to have an abortion and I refused. I went home and took it easy waiting for the bleeding to stop. The bleeding would calm when I was laying down but once I sat up I would bleed again. At 10 weeks I had a huge bleeding spell and went to the ER. I had a very hard time getting the staff to stop suggesting a D&C. I had an ultrasound that showed I had a very tilted uterus and surprise I had TWINS. Shock set it very quickly. I had always dreamed of having twins but how on earth could I have two babies at my age?
Laura
Mom to Michael James, miscarried March 20th, 2011
and Cale Rogan, September 4th, 2011
Morristown, TN
Jon
Father of
Oscar – born and died July 30th, 2009
Bella – born and died July 30th, 2009
and Tittle – miscarried January 2010
Madison, Wisconsin
I guess it all starts at age 2 for me. That is how old I was when my father left, and that is the start of molding me into the man I have become today. As I look back on it not having a father has made me into the father that I am today. [Read more...]
Tricia
Mom to Baby lost at 8 Weeks – May 1999
Second Early loss at 8 Weeks – September 2001
Ryan James
June 25th, 20004
and Joshua Richard
June 25th, 2004 – June 26th, 2004
Marion, Ohio
We were married on September 21, 1996 and dreamed of having a large family. Little did we know our dreams would be hard won. We began trying to conceieve immediately after we married and we were blessed with a trouble free pregnancy and full term daughter. We had no idea that we would have trouble down the road. [Read more...]
Kendra
Mom to Baby Miscarried March 5th, 2010
and beautiful baby boy, Parker Wayne
May 21st, 2011 – June 6th, 2011
Flat Rock, Illinois
My story starts on Feburary 20, 2010 my husband was gone on the road traveling for his job. I had missed my period and knew that wasn’t normal for me. I went to Wal Mart and bough a pregnancy test. To my amazement it was positive I was excited and scared at the same time. I told my hubby the next day and we both were so excited. I called the doctor and made an appointment and told most of my famiy. A week later I started spotting my I went to the ER and they checked me and said everything was fine but to consult with my doctor on Monday. The next week my doctor kept checking my Quant number. On Friday March 5 I got a call that the doctor wanted to see me right away. I got there and they informed me that I had a miscarriage my heart dropped and asked them to get my mom. The next day I went in for a D&C. I was devistated how could something so special be taken. On March 30th I got another call that changed my life my mother in law Rose was at the hospital with a bleed in the brain. They transfered her to Carle Clinic in Champaign where she passed away. I thought maybe God knew this would be to much stress on me and thats why this happened. [Read more...]
Eboni Thompson
Mom to Jaylin Renay Thompson
born April 7, 2007 to April 9, 2007
Miami, Florida
Carmen
Mom to Ryan
Born and Died on April 22nd, 2002 at 26 weeks
Allan
Born and Died on January 19th, 2003 at 23 weeks
and Ethan
Born at 32 weeks on May 10th and Died May 12th due to a heart defect
I am the mother of 3 angels and my last angel died 2 weeks ago. My story starts 9 years ago when I had my first son Ryan. When we found out I was pregnant, I was 3 months along and told our family at a restaurant where we had lunch, everyone was ecstatic to hear our news. I can recall that it was a good pregnancy, no problems and all was going well until 18th April (Good Friday) evening at 11:50pm when I suddenly felt the urge to go to the toilet, which I did and to my horror, saw a thick mucus discharge with blood, my husband took me to the Medi-clinic emergency room immediately, where they admitted me as they suspected I was in labour, they put me on the monitor and had a look at my cervix which was not fully dilated yet. All was going okay during the night and when the OB/GYN came early Saturday morning, she discovered that I was 7 cm dilated and immediately put me on meds to prevent the cervix from dilating further.
Cindy
Mom to Dana
May 19th, 1981
Orange, California
After marrying my high school sweetheart and waiting for our college graduation and his graduation from medical school, we were more than ready to start a family two years after that. After trying to get pregnant for more than a year, we were thrilled when I found out I would be having a baby the following summer. Whirlwinds of buying maternity clothes_and outfitting the baby’s room occupied the first few months. Oh, how happy and excited_we were! But deep down, I knew something wasn’t quite right. I had been having cramping since the third month. And some blood spotting. My doctor told me that most likely everything was fine. But it wasn’t.
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