create. heal. inspire. kristin cook.

Today, I get to introduce you to our first guest poster who certainly shouldn’t be considered a guest around this place at all. Kristin is the founder and mastermind behind Faces of Loss, Faces of Hope and is one incredibly talented, creative, hard-working soul who has used her love of writing to help heal the hearts of thousands of women across the globe. Today she’s here to share a special project idea and giveaway with all of you. Get your pens, journals, and laptops ready! ~Beryl

Hi everyone. My name is Kristin, and you may or may not know me as the founder of, or “the face” behind Faces. I became a part of this ‘babyloss club’ about a year and a half ago, in May 2010, when my daughter Stevie was stillborn at 26 weeks. Losing Stevie has been hands-down the worst, most difficult thing that I’ve ever had to go through. But it has also taught me so much, brought new fulfillment to my life, and allowed me to rediscover passions that had been laying dormant for quite some time. While of course I would do just about anything to have her back, I truly believe Stevie had (and continues to have!) a beautiful purpose for existing in this world, even if was only for a few short months.

Since I was a little girl, I’ve always been a writer. My mom has boxes and boxes full of the ‘stories’ I would write from as young as four years old. In middle school, I would spend my evenings on the computer, typing up literally hundreds of pages of ‘chapter books,’ then read them to my friends on the bus on the way to school in the mornings. I even got my Bachelor’s degree in English Literature and Writing in college. Then real life began and unless I was doing it for my job, the writing pretty much stopped.

Then May 8th, 2010 happened, and that all changed. After Stevie died, I had so many crazy feelings and emotions running through my head all the time, and it seemed the only way to get any relief from them was to get them out and write them down. So write them down, I did. I began recording my feelings, in the form of letters to my daughter, on my blog, Dear Stevie, a few days after her death (click here for a list of some of my ‘best of’ earlier posts). At first I was writing just for myself, as a form of therapy almost. But within a couple weeks, all of a sudden I was getting emails and comments from other girls who had also lost a baby, telling me how much they could resonate with my words; thanking me for putting into words the exact things they had been feeling.

That summer, I poured myself into my blog, my writing, and the whole process brought me incredible healing. It felt so freeing to take the jumbled mess of thoughts in my head and sort of ‘package them up’ into cohesive ideas that other people were able to relate to. I found so much validation from others who were commenting and writing on their own blogs. Coming to the realization that I was not alone, and that I wasn’t crazy or weird for feeling the things I did, was one of the single most important stops on my healing journey.

Writing letters to Stevie has also helped me stay connected to my daughter over the last 18 months. It’s hard to put into words without sounding slightly crazy, but although I know she can’t actually read the words I write to her, I believe she can feel them somehow. I feel a deep, unexplainable bond with my child that I think has been greatly strengthened by the act of writing to her.

Other forms of creativity have been important to me as on this journey as well–photography, crafting, my work with Faces–but writing has been by far the most crucial to my healing, definitely.

During January, International Creativity Month, I’d like to invite you all to join me in writing a letter to your baby(ies). I mean, what better way to start the fresh new year than by connecting with our children, right? I’ve come up with a few prompts to help you get started, but please feel free to write to your baby about whatever comes to mind–whatever is on your heart. I hope you find the exercise as personally fulfilling as I have.

Letter Writing Prompts

  • How are you feeling about the new year?
  • If 2011 was the year your baby was born, how does it make you feel to leave it behind?
  • What has your baby taught you in 2011? About yourself? About your relationships? About life?
  • What are you new years resolutions? How do you want to make your baby proud in 2012?

If you’re comfortable sharing your letter, please use the linky tool below to add a link to a blog post with your letter. If you need help starting a blog (it seriously takes less than five minutes to set one up!), click here for some wonderful instructions from our friends at Grieve Out Loud.

Giveaway

At the end of the month, we’ll randomly choose two people out of those who have linked up to receive a $30 Faces Merch Store gift certificate (I know the prize has nothing to do with writing, but hey, who can’t use a new hoodie? :)

I am looking toward 2012 with a lot of hope. Not only are we expecting Stevie’s little brother in March, but I just know my little girl is going to continue to inspire me and make me a better person in the coming year.

Wishing you all new year full of peace, love, and hope,

Kristin

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Comments

  1. Entered my link but don’t see it showing up so here’s a comment too!
    http://www.caringforcarleigh.com/2012/01/dear-carleigh.html

  2. Carrie Konig says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. We lost our babies the same week :( Eden was born at 22wks 4days on May 2, 2010. May 8th is my 1st born daughter’s birthday. I remember wanting to celebrate and be happy for her that day, but filled with such sadness and grief that was unbearable! I love the whole premise of your blog! Thank you for putting a “face” to our loss when so often it feels like a private pain.

  3. I entered mine as well and don’t see it yet, so just in case!
    http://life-afterloss.blogspot.com/2011/12/not-just-another-day.html
    Ruth Caruthers, author at life-afterloss.blogspot.com

  4. I entered mine too, but like Holly and Ruth will share my link here too.

    http://beyondwordsdesigns.com/?p=1741

  5. laura michelle says:

    i did post an entry but decided to delete my blog account! i’m starting a new one and hopefully i can get that post up correctly!

  6. Kristin,
    This website is part of a huge and vital reason for your sweet Stevie’s existance. She has brought peace, comradery, and healing to many moms and dads who need to know that they are not alone. Even with all the loving support of our family and the small town we live in, the end of 2010 after we lost our son was the loneliest time of my life. The words of other moms who had lost a child helped me the most. I wish I would have known about this site then. I plan to share my story. Thank you so much!

  7. Krista Sem says:

    Forever my tiny Baby

    Forever I will cherish my time with you
    although it was much to short
    Your memory will be tuck away
    forever safe in my heart

    You filled my dreams forever
    my tiny little one
    I know God had a plan for you
    and God’s will must be done

    My precious angel baby
    I love you oh so much
    I wait for the day to see you
    when Heaven is mine to touch

    You will be there waiting
    I know this in my heart
    You became my baby forever
    right from the very start

    May God hold you for now
    until my time is through
    forever I will be your Mommy
    even though today I can’t see you

  8. Krista Sem says:

    Hi Kristin
    I got your name from Sherokee Ilse. I am working on a project in my local community to donate care packages to my local hospital and clinic for mothers who loose a pregnancy or infant. I am looking for some brochures to have available for everyone who will be involved in my events coming up. Sherokee thought you could help me. Sorry for posting this on here, I couldn’t find an email or contact number for you. I also just posted my poem I wrote for one of my multipe pregnancy losses. Hope to hear from you soon.
    Truly yours,
    \rista

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