They waited until 5:30 am to start pitocin, before which they had given me an epidural. My ob, Dr. Frederick came in at 7am and sat with me on my bed and prayed with us. He was in and out of my room alot that morning. At 10:41 am I delievered my Eli, a 6lb 3oz and 20.5 inch long baby boy. The first thing I asked Dr. Frederick was that if he was sure he was gone. I couldn’t believe it. Somewhere deep inside I thought maybe they were wrong.
They took Eli straight out of the room to be cleaned up and then brought him back into us so we could study him, breathe him in and love on our baby boy. We spent all day with him, holding him and admiring our son. The nurses took him for an hour to do his pictures and brought him back to us. At 6pm that night, a man from the funeral home came to pick Eli up. That’s the point where I lost it. For crying out loud, they were taking my son to a funeral home! How do you cope with that?
Once Eli was gone Dr. Frederick came back in to talk to me. He said that he flipped just so that the cord wrapped around his neck two and a half times and then got a knot in it which prevented him from getting any blood or oxygen. He told me that even if I were at the hospital when it had happened they wouldn’t have been able to do anything to save because by then he was already gone.
After 2 hours, my nurse came back in with a little box. Inside were all the photos they took of Eli, a molding of his foot, a ring that they had put on him for his pictures, the tape they measured him with, our hospital bracelets and locks of his hair. They also gave me everything he wore. That is all I have of my son, everything fits in a box.
I’m still not sure how I’m going to make each and everyday, but I have to because my older son, Austin needs me. I don’t want anybody to ever forget about Eli. He may not be here with us but he is still my son, I still have 2 beautiful boys. I am Austin AND Eli’s mommy.
yes you are, and you always will be…hugs and love to you…
omg the tears are streaming down my face. i lost a set of twins in 1998 at 3 1/2 months along that was hard. i am now pregnant with baby #6 and i always have the cord fear. my thoughts and prayers are with you sweetie. and you are a beautiful mother of 2 more than handsome sons!
Thank you for sharing! You'll always be the mommy of 2 precious boys!!
Thank you for sharing Amber. I am so sorry you have lost your beautiful Eli. Never forgotten. Sal xoxo
Amber, Iam the nanna of our beautiful stillborn angel Jayden Born July 2008. I read your story & cried my heart out as I did when I was at the birth of my own grandson, throughout my daughters labour in the back of my mind I was always hoping for a miracle, but it was not to be, the devastation was & still is overwelming, it has gotten easier but I still feel like my heart has been wrenched & torn, Iam only the grandmother & to watch my darling daughter go through this huge hurt & to not be able to heal it & help as I could when she was young has ripped me apart. She has since had a gorgeous lil princess… Mia, & is expecting another bub Feb 2011.
Eli will be with you forever just as Jayden is with us everyday.
You ARE the mummy of TWO beautiful children just as Iam the nanna of five angels and two bouncing lovable grandkids with another on the way.
My thoughts are with you sweetheart
Good luck
That is the saddest story, Amber. I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so tragic. My thoughts go out to you and your family.