Some of the projects that I work on include writing angel names on the sidewalk. This was inspired by other BLMs who also write angel names for those of us in the community. I thought of a unique way to repay their kind act and established Names On The Sidewalk. Another project of mine is folic acid awareness. Because folic acid helps lower the risk of Neural Tube Defects (NTD) like Anencephaly, I have become quite knowledgeable about it and share it with the TTC community in order to avoid having them go through the heartache I went through.
Unfortunately, when I gave birth to Genesis there was nothing in place at the hospital to really help me get through this tragedy. I got a paper with her footprints on it and a pink blanket. I went back several weeks later to get the 1 and only photo that was taken to keep for my memory box. As a result I wanted other parents to have more resources available to them and I have donated memory boxes to the hospital where Genesis was born. I am also in contact with the ladies in the perinatal loss department and pass on ideas and info that can help grieving parents.
I have seen time after time that more pain and injury is being added to grieving parents by the way they are treated and by the things people say. I am in the process of making videos for the non-baby loss community to illustrate how ridiculous it is to treat grieving parents the way they are treated. I’m trying to make this contribution so that pregnancy and infant loss is not such a taboo subject.
Being involved in the hospitals perinatal loss department gives me a sense of comfort and peace knowing that once again I am doing this in Genesis’ memory and through my actions ~ her memory is being kept alive.
I am consistently inspired by Carley Marie Dudley and all the contributions to the BLM community she has made. It has inspired me to make donations on August 19th Day Of Hope, she has inspired me to make awareness videos and to make just as big of an impact on the BLM community as she has. Seeing her special area (shrine) to Christian inspires me to make one in my own home regardless of what others may think.
This is a photo that Carley Marie Dudley took of Genesis’ name on Christian’s beach. Her blog, To Write Their Names In The Sand, was how I found the BLM community. This was the first picture that I received with Genesis’ name. It inspired me to help others and brought me peace. Genesis had inspired me to start all these projects but this was the push I needed to bring them all to life.